By Anita Doberman: CNJ columnist
I grew up in an apartment in a busy section of Rome, and aside from my cousins who lived on different floors of the same building, we never socialized with our neighbors. In fact, we were taught specifically not to trust anyone. There was a lot of crime in Rome and many kidnappings, so my parents were always watchful, and I guess I also became careful of my surroundings.
I carried this attitude when I lived in Manhattan,