Violent parenting teaches child violence

CNJ Readers

I would like to agree with Bill Sconone in Tuesday’s letter (“Parents fail to teach common courtesies.”)

However, I must strongly disagree with his methods.

Smacking or swatting a child is parenting by bullying.

Hitting a child just teaches him or her it is OK to hit another person if you are bigger than them.

My mother was a military wife and she raised four children, practically on her own, and never had to raise her hand.
She parented with respect. She respected us, so we respected her. She didn’t yell at us in public, speak down to us, or ridicule our feelings.

The problem in America is simply a lack of respect.

Gail Sharpe
Clovis

Common-sense morality requires us to help others

An engineer friend with an IQ easily 20 points above mine came over to talk about human interactions.

He was troubled by the observable fact that machines, invented by humans, were predictable, while their inventors were a bit less so.

Our four-hour talk went from B. F. Skinner to Kant and many places in between, exploring connections, playing with possibilities, and trying to figure out the progressions of human history. Pretty esoteric, huh?

Well.

It came down to this: He needed to see the world as either/or on/off, while at once knowing that at least within the scope of our present understanding, it was not.

These things scream to the heart of politics, moving to the two biggest questions: Should we fight? Should we cooperate? Obviously we must do both, but in what proportion? What contexts?

He is way to the right. I tend left.

He thinks everyone must speak English. I think the president should.

He looks at New Orleans and says they brought it upon themselves, and how are my oil stocks doing? I say how can we help, how can we prevent another?

To me, common-sense morality requires us to help people, not dismiss them, be flexible rather than rigid, be caring rather than blank.

I’ve crossed over now to his either/or perspective. Helping is good. Hurting is bad.

If I had his IQ, I’d really zap him.

Kirby Rowan
Portales

Breeze, uncaring trash collectors worsen debris

While I’m all for cleaning up the alleyways in Clovis (“Officials planning ordinance crackdown”, Thursday’s CNJ), the city needs to begin debris enforcement in alleys from within.

Trash collection on breezy days contributes greatly to the debris problem, with trash being blown all over the alley (and sometimes the neighborhood) when the dumpster is emptied.

Some city drivers make no effort to clean up the mess nor do they report it to the sanitation department for someone else to clean up. They leave it to property owners.

I believe the city of Clovis has a responsibility here and should take steps to eliminate or reduce this problem, and if a debris problem is created during trash collection, at least clean up after themselves.

Bob Baker
Clovis