Clyde Davis: CNJ columnist
To those who are born romantics, our favorite holiday is fast approaching.
Have you given any thought to Valentine’s Day ?
Perhaps this column will lead you in that direction. We are always on the lookout for new ways to embrace the woman or man in our lives and help him or her to comprehend how truly adored he or she is. Yep, even though I write from the male gender, you ladies can transfer the ideas.
Awareness, as always, is the key. If you are in the habit of regarding her as a piece of furniture, break it. If your major question for her is “What’s for supper ?”, go back to square one.
It doesn’t have to be big; it only has to be performed with love. On Thursday nights I usually get home around nine because we have our spirituality group. Frequently she stops what she is doing to make a couple of scrambled eggs since I don’t always have dinner. That is an example.
You can write, or draw, something that will take her back to a place and a time where you shared special events together. A couple of years ago, my wife joined me in South Carolina for a weekend. We saw enough of Charleston and the islands to decide that someday we would like to go back. I can’t get her plane tickets for Charleston right now — but what can I do to recreate that experience for her?
You can clean the favorite romantic room in the house — whether it is the bedroom, den or dining room. You can make sure that the fireplace is cleaned out and ready to light, have scented candles and music on hand, shop for your card sometime prior to 5 p.m. Feb. 14, in short imagine that you are dating again and she is coming over to your place for the evening. (Some folks reading this may be dating … )
You can have a bouquet or balloons delivered to her at her job. This reminds all of the people with whom she works that she is adored and treasured. It also reminds the handsome new guy driving the delivery truck that she is not available.
You can get her to do something crazy with you. Go to Ute Lake and have a picnic in the dark on the shore. Take her to Blackwater Draw and invoke the blessings of the ancestors on your relationship. Spend the evening in a local spa together. Arrange a romance movie marathon from 5:30 p.m. to midnight.
Valentine’s Day is on a Monday so begin early, romancing her slowly and in every possible way. Propose to her again, if you are married. Propose to her, if you are not married.
You may notice that few if any of the above will cost you a lot of money. It’s not about money — it is about tenderness, gentleness and awareness. Show her that she is the light of your life.
Clyde Davis is pastor of First Presbyterian Church in Portales and an instructor at Eastern New Mexico University. He can be contacted at: